Does my love life need LASIK?

I have always heard love is blind. I never was one to believe that saying. I have always patted myself on the back, saying that I go into relationships with my eyes wide open.

With the one big twenty year exception of my first marriage, lets just erase that like it was all a bad dream. Write it out of the script like the TV show Dallas did with Bobby Ewing coming out of the shower and the whole previous season was a dream…yea I like that…I dreamed for 20 years and woke up with two great kids.

I am an open and honest person, what you see is what you get. Now I am beginning to wonder does my love life need LASIK surgery?

The view I have recently seen is not the person I knew. I have had my eyes ripped open, scouring off a layer of cells and damaging my retinas.

Mr. Kind, Caring and Considerate (Mr.KCC)…made excuses for and allowed another human being to be used. A person I thought would never use or abuse another living soul actually supported this subterfuge that was perpetrated.

To explain: Party A has deep feelings for Party B. Party B wants to only be friends with Party A. Party B needed a financial transaction (a major purchase), Party A co-signed for Party B. Things were fine and friendly for a time, now a couple of months later…Party A is not around as often, if ever. One can only assume Party A has been kicked to the curb as their usefulness has been outlived.

Now as I see it this is using Party A’s feelings to get a desired result. Which is not what nice, kind and caring people do…it is abusive and just plain wrong! As I sat on the sidelines of this and said how I thought it was a “bad idea” and “wrong” the replies that flew at me were shocking. Party A “offered” and “wouldn’t do it if they didn’t want to.” Just because someone offers doesn’t mean you should take the offer, is what I recommended.

My heart hurt. I mean literally hurt. An ache in my chest for days that did not go away. I would look at Mr. KCC and all I saw was a stranger in his place. Had I been blind? Oh dear lord, was I one of those stupid women? What about Party A did their heart hurt, did they feel used, did they see the truth behind it all? Did they actually think Party B was going to change their type of relationship? And more importantly what kind of karma was all of this inviting into our lives?

Mr. KCC actually did not see the wrong here, someone offered a solution and the offer was accepted. No matter how I put it, he could not grasp that it was wrong and praying on Party A’s feelings. Now some may say it is none of His or my business…well it is because this is someone we love, care about and want to teach values to, which is Party B. And Party A is just a hell of a nice person who deserves to be treated better.

And that brings up a whole new topic of heart hurting, I don’t like the people I love to be cruel and inconsiderate of others. Each person has value and are placed into our lives for a reason. We should cherish each relationship, even the bad ones. My twenty year dream did bring two wonderful kids into this world, so all was not bad.

I don’t want rose colored glasses, but maybe I should Google LASIK and check out the procedure…my heart can’t take what my eyes can’t see.